It is common and traditional to start the new year off with a resolution to perform better, but I am not doing that. Once I made a resolution not to eat any French fries for a year and I did stick to it quite easily. Now, I am thinking of a broader scope, not so self serving, yet something that comes rather easily. It won't be a resolution, nor a goal, but something entirely different and I do encourage you to join in.
What I propose is a happy jar. Instead of beating yourself up for breaking your resolution and finally giving up, feeling guilty and defeated, switch over to positive thinking. Make a resolution to do something or think something kind each day. The more memorable moments can be written on a slip of paper and placed in your happy jar. Random acts of kindness, moments where you felt compassion, small deeds you volunteered unselfishly, and any other events that came to your life for 2015 which you created the happiness, not from which you were given happiness through something else…those moments need to go into the happy jar and next year be read. Or they can be read when you are feeling down and defeated and worthless as a lift in your life throughout the year.
My plan is to make some one else happy, not tell about it, and if I feel it was a good thing, put the moment on paper and place it in my happy jar. So, instead of making a resolution, which I most likely won't stick to, then chastise myself for having such poor resolve, I will be making some one else happy and patting myself quietly on the back at the same time. This seems to be a better idea than the traditional resolution. The key, though, is to keep those special moments to yourself and not brag or share them. The reasoning behind that is that, although the happy bits are ultimately for yourself, they benefit others too, though by boasting, the act of kindness could become a boost to your pride instead of a feather in your cap. So, do, and tell no one, except yourself of course and next year, if you want to share your happy jar moments with a loved one, feel free to do so. Maybe you will encourage another and he will encourage another and so on.
Let's go. One more day to the start of the happy jar. Oh, and have a stellar 2015. I have a feeling it is going to be a wonderful year for you.
What I propose is a happy jar. Instead of beating yourself up for breaking your resolution and finally giving up, feeling guilty and defeated, switch over to positive thinking. Make a resolution to do something or think something kind each day. The more memorable moments can be written on a slip of paper and placed in your happy jar. Random acts of kindness, moments where you felt compassion, small deeds you volunteered unselfishly, and any other events that came to your life for 2015 which you created the happiness, not from which you were given happiness through something else…those moments need to go into the happy jar and next year be read. Or they can be read when you are feeling down and defeated and worthless as a lift in your life throughout the year.
My plan is to make some one else happy, not tell about it, and if I feel it was a good thing, put the moment on paper and place it in my happy jar. So, instead of making a resolution, which I most likely won't stick to, then chastise myself for having such poor resolve, I will be making some one else happy and patting myself quietly on the back at the same time. This seems to be a better idea than the traditional resolution. The key, though, is to keep those special moments to yourself and not brag or share them. The reasoning behind that is that, although the happy bits are ultimately for yourself, they benefit others too, though by boasting, the act of kindness could become a boost to your pride instead of a feather in your cap. So, do, and tell no one, except yourself of course and next year, if you want to share your happy jar moments with a loved one, feel free to do so. Maybe you will encourage another and he will encourage another and so on.
Let's go. One more day to the start of the happy jar. Oh, and have a stellar 2015. I have a feeling it is going to be a wonderful year for you.
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